Relational Living Communications
Connected
Sometimes we don't realize how much being in connection matters to us until we are in a conflict. Human connection invites a sense of belonging and safety when we have supportive relationships around us. Connectedness happens when two or more people interact with each other and each person has a sense of being valued, respected and heard. We teach people ways to come back into connection when there has been a breach in that rapport.
Constructive
Rather than having destructive conversations, constructiveness is a positive force intending to build and create. We've all been there when things seem to be falling apart in our world and feel utterly hopeless. These practices provide valuable tools that are practical, effective and productive for the purpose of encouraging growth and expansion, giving us freedom from the habitual patterns that keep us stuck.
Communication
Our every day lives are dependent on communication, whether it involves directly interacting with others, or getting a message across in other ways. There is a whole wave of events that can happen before we even open our mouths or hit the 'send' button that many of us fail to stop and consider. Effective communication with others actually starts with looking at our inner worlds and how we relate to ourselves and other elements in our lives.
Coaching
We as humans are not meant to go on our path alone. There is a wisdom already inherent within each individual that can be accessed with the help of others who are there to remind us of who we are. Support from others who have already been through some of life's challenges is sometimes all we need in order to make a shift. Our programs are designed to give insight, accountability, and mentorship to guide you into your own transformation.
What Does Relational Mean?
From the moment we are born, we are in relationship every second of our lives, whether it is with another person, or with ourselves. The world as we know it would not be what it is if we weren’t relating to something or someone. Everything we see around us, every system in place, every tool we use, required some sort of exchange of engagement to be what is is today. To be relational is to be aware of how we are…
About us
Co-Founder, Relational Healing Coach
Nari Tabcum
With over 20 years of experience, Nari Tabcum specializes in helping individuals, couples and groups cultivate deeper, more meaningful relationships. Through her training in Authentic Facilitation, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and interest-based mediation, Nari creates environments that foster trust, empathy, and genuine growth. Drawing on transformational models like Robert Gonzales’s Living Compassion and Terry Real’s relational practices, Nari supports clients in building more connection, harmony and emotional freedom in their lives.
Her sessions combine heartfelt insights with evidence-based methods, particularly Internal Family Systems (IFS), helping clients face life’s challenges with resilience. Nari empowers people to break free from limiting beliefs and embrace their innate capacity for empathy and understanding.
In her personal life, Nari practices these same principles, fostering a meaningful relationship with her partner, James, through transparent, loving dialogue. Beyond her work, she finds joy in watercoloring, crafting nourishing meals, and spending time with her cherished cat, Kang Singe.
Nari’s vision is a world where compassion and self-awareness lead to stronger connections and a more harmonious society.
Co-Founder, Mindful Communication Coach
James Tolley
With over a decade of experience in communication mastery, James Tolley has immersed himself in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and Couples Dialogue, guiding individuals and couples toward deeper, more authentic connections. Trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS) with Everett Constantine on Maui, James has a unique blend of relational and inner healing skills that inform his compassionate approach.
As a dedicated practitioner of Buddhism, James emphasizes cultivating a steady awareness of the Natural State of Mind. His life’s work revolves around dissolving disinformation by empowering people to access truth directly, free from intermediaries. Through applied spirituality, James aims to support the creation of an enlightened society where individuals can experience genuine inner peace.
For James, the driving force is the profound belief that everyone has the ability to live in a state of lasting bliss by connecting with their innate Buddha-Nature. This is actually the Ultimate Truth above all.
Client Stories
“Nari was understanding and really seemed to get my perspective. She was great to work with and helped me get the results I wanted!”
~ SARA BARKER
Truva Properties LLC, Founder
“We have been working with Nari for just over 3 years. She handles our internal communication needs and we’ve never been let down. Highly recommended.”
~ Phillis Reed
Gloritech Inc., VP Operations
“Both Nari and James are very professional, talented and personable. They impressed me with their expertise and dedication. I will definitely be working with them again.”
~ Mark Dixon
Personal Injury Client
Free Referral Program
❤️🔥 Have you ever found yourself in an interaction that had some friction?
❤️🔥 Do you sometimes feel stuck in the same patterns of engaging with your loved ones?
❤️🔥 Would you like to get some insight or support with navigating conflicts with ease?
For a limited time, I am running a referral program where you get to receive 3 sessions for FREE in exchange for feedback and referrals. During these sessions, we will dive in to see how you can find more spaciousness and freedom so you can access your inner resources to be able to more effectively handle disagreements.
“Do you want to be right or do you want to be in relationship?”
~ Harville Hendrix, author of Getting the Love you Want
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The quality of our lives can be heavily impacted by the way we relate to each other. If you are experiencing challenges that are effecting your life, let us help you on your way to relational wellness!